O.K. Then......
O.k........where were we? First, I want to say thank you for all the supportive comments regarding my last post----and thanks to some of you who had never commented before....it really helps. Truly.
In terms of the situation. I have now gone through the checkbook and bank statements and it looks as though everything was kosher up until the last few weeks. And after several conversations with her and with my mother I think we have things under control. I must say she was not systematically doing this....I think she got herself into kind of hole and started pushing paychecks closer and closer together.... She didn't deny anything, she tearfully apologized and said she never wanted to handle the money again. She promptly brought back everything I asked. She isn't through an agency so that is not somewhere for me to go. She someone who is her own worst enemy in many ways. My mother loves her dearly though and I believe with all my heart that she loves my mother so cutting things off entirely is NOT something I could do to my mother at this point. My mother and I figured out what we'll pay her while my mom is in the nursing home and I'll handle all financials.
So after all this I took my mother to the nephrologist (kidneys). The nursing home brought her----of course they took her to the office instead of the lobby as I was told so it was a bit tense but we figured it out. Dr. Attia came in and damn but he smelled good. He's a lovely man....after the appointment he wheeled my mother out to the counter to make another appointment and when that was busy wheeled her over to another area so she wouldn't have to wait. He was really kind to my mother AND he smelled good! Her kidney levels are fine but she's starting to retain fluids again so she's beginning to get fluid in her lungs again. He's adjusting her diuretics and will have her weighed every day so he can monitor things. It is just a matter of getting the right balance of fluids in her body. Too much fluid and the congestive heart failure acts up......too little fluid and her kidneys go downhill. It was very hard to watch them put her back into the van to drive off to the nursing home.
I was exhausted....too tired to even go out with Ann and Bob as we had planned. Around 8:30 I took two Tylenonl PM's. Yes TWO because one wasn't working and all I wanted to do was knock myself out for awhile. I know, I know. So when the phone rang at 2:00 in the middle of the night it took me a minute to wake up. It was my mother all wound up and crying and saying the fan was on her and she needed us to call them. Ernie called the nursing home and they said that her light hadn't been on but they would go check on her. Tyleonol PM or no Tylenol PM I couldn't fall back asleep for a long, long time.
This morning we headed out to the Farmers' Market. Good LORD but I love buying vegetables! We are supposed to be cleaning the second floor of house right now but it's glorious outside so instead Ernie and a couple of our favorite men (Jeff and Dave) are splitting wood in a log splitter and I'm sitting at the table in the front yard watching them work....and I may just STAY here until dark!
On a side note......Leo was just talking about some Lego plans and said, "it's going to take a long time" to which Owen replied, "well, you know what going to take ME a long time? To grow UP!" Out of the mouths of babes....
Oh, and look at this Siberian Iris....isn't it beautiful My mother's hair turned gray in the same way.....just gorgeous....